It startled me recently to realize how much simpler human behavior is than we think.
People are very basic creatures, but we try to make things so much more complicated than they really are. All it does is take up energy and make our lives fail to be satisfying.
We’re all so afraid of not being good enough and are so mean to each other because of it. Trying to prove we’re better than someone else for a momentary ego boost, or projecting our fears of not being good enough onto other people — “I don’t think I’m not good enough, YOU don’t think I’m good enough!”
Meanwhile, we’re just social animals — we need company, safety, food, sex, water, shelter. We’re no more complicated than our cats and dogs. We can DO more complicated things, and THINK more complicated thoughts, but we’re not complicated creatures by any means.
Most of us are scared that if we’re not good enough, we’ll be kicked out of the tribe and die. But because we don’t even realize that’s what we’re afraid of, and afraid to admit we feel that we fall short (because if you even think that you might not be good enough, even quietly to yourself, someone might figure you out and give you the boot), everything becomes a mess, from friendships to politics.
The only person you have to be good enough for is yourself. Figure that out, and the rest falls into place.
